Listening to: The Youth – MGMT
The basis of all relationships should be communication. Without it there is no growth, no exploring. About being close to someone. Nat King Cole said it best, ‘The greatest thing you’ll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return.’ Humans crave closeness.
Most importantly its about the learning experiances. When it comes to finding the right guy or girl, hardly anyone gets it right the first time. The ones that do, sure are lucky. Lets be honest, about 80% of these experiances suck. They hurt and lead to emotional baggage, that is to be carried around forever. Put it out of mind, forget it. And its still there haunting, waiting to strike unaware. The first guy with an agenda, the first girl who cheats. Both seemingly innocent. They will be remembered forever, regardless of how well they are hidden behind barracades of brain cells, after the fact. The next guy or girl may seem trust worthy too. So, they are let in. We try again. Maybe this one gets bored, or a trip-wire goes off. They are gone too. A pattern arises, those who seem trust worthy never are. But humans still require closeness. The third person comes around, with a bad reputation that proceeds them. Well, at least this time we know what we are getting into.
This is of course assuming that the ‘one’ wasn’t found the first or second time, when there isn’t much baggage carried around. Trust eventually becomes an issue with everyone. To put it bluntly the douchebags, the sluts, the jerks, the bitches exist; they exist. They are met in the elevator or in the lunch line. They might be a best friend. They are out there, and we know it. The problem is that the good people, the honest people are shrouded and pushed aside. Kind of like the news. Its all robberies, kidnappings, and murders. Where is the good in that?
The all-around good kids are the ones who are least trusted. They are the ones who will come as the greatest shock when they backstab someone, thus hurt the most, if something were to happen. Like the Spanish Inquistion, no one saw that coming. These good kids are the ones who will embrace other peoples baggage, along with their own to give others a shot. They put themselves out there, take a shot and trust just one more time. The naive ones, who always see the best in other people but never in themselves. The ones with the guilty conscious, because they blame themselves for all that ever went wrong, while the douches and sluts run away free, taking another soul to the dark side.
Thats how it happens. The cheats and skanks were once the good kids. The ones who honestly and genuinely cared about what their other had to say. Bought gifts, not because of some plan to get in the girls pants but, to brighten their day. But they met that one girl or guy who drove them over the edge. Convinced them to screw it, and take their hurt out against every other innocent and naive heart. Because its what seems like the cure.
Humans desire relationships because we were never meant to be alone. The problem is trust. Humans need to learn to put their trust and faith in others.